I know, I know, the logistics of dating as a solo parent who’s working to provide for her family can get tough.I’m right there in the trenches online at single parents' dating sites and on apps, looking for love and, mostly, looking to stay out of trouble.This feels like a waste of time when you match with someone only to find out that, bam!You’ve got no desire to go out with this jobless fool.Not to mention, I was very wary of letting someone who was potentially creepy anywhere near me (or, more importantly, my kids). I was also able to learn from mistakes I had made in the past so I wouldn't repeat them.3. And trust me, there were times when I felt desperate.My friends wondered what I was doing that helped me attract (mostly) non-duds. There were times when I could barely pay the bills, and barely keep it together.In order to message people, you have to pay for a subscription.The pro here is that men who are paying are more likely to message back and make dates.
You won’t waste time filling out large forms and questionnaires, and your pictures are right there on Facebook.
I wanted to be sure that whom I was in love with had nothing to do with his wallet or his resume. In the time between my divorce and when I dated again, I dusted off the dream of writing a cookbook, which for me meant attending writing conferences, writing my blog, finding an agent, and sticking to something that others may have said was a waste of time.
Not being desperate meant being willing to move on without someone.4. As I worked on becoming the person I wanted to be, I was able to attract the right kind of man.
So if I make a mistake or want a second look at someone, I can backtrack and revisit a potential match.
Cons: Like on Tinder, you’re searching men knowing very little about them.