The Dangers of Convenient Sex Unfortunately, much like a casino app in the hands of a compulsive gambler, those struggling with sexual addiction and similar sexual problems see sex finder apps as the equivalent of crack cocaine. Rico's story aside, sex finder apps have for most healthy people generated a reliable new source of casual romantic and sexual encounters, offering a readily available, mostly free source of brief sexual encounters and connection. One important recommendation for anyone choosing to enter the "friend finder" world is to make sure they have genuine clarity about what it is they want.And, as with all addictions, whether to substances or behaviors, the consequences to the active abuser can be profound. If you're devoted to finding a spouse or long-term partner, a traditional dating website is probably a much better option than Blendr.
Clinginess is invasive, threatening, annoying, suspect and extremely unattractive, “if you read it that way.” You can also interpret it as, “I just want to be with you.” The solution here is flexibility and communication. I was working on a project with a woman (whom I was quite smitten with) and I told her explicitly not to call me on Saturday’s during football season. Bottom line, women tend to be clingy more so than men—again oxytocin.
As such, any jam-packed venue is now a prime cruising spot for app-aware people looking to get laid. Within three months I ended up getting fired for sneaking out of work to hook up.
This entire genre of apps has in effect turned your local dog park, museum, mall, and crowded train station into a gigantic "singles" bar (though not everyone is single). And if you have traditionally been the kind of person too shy to make the first move -- no worries, as long as your app is open it is actively signaling your availability, so it won't be long before someone finds you. And just as bad, two guys I genuinely liked dating dumped me when they found me cruising Grindr while they were in the other room making dinner or on the phone. But I still haven't been able to put the thing away and stay away.
My school and training schedule is just too crazy for that.
But David and I did hook up that night, and quite a few times since, totally without strings, but also having a lot of fun. When out to dinner with friends I would set my phone to silent so it would merely vibrate in my pocket when someone was looking to connect with me.